The choice is about knowing how to have a casual relationship without getting hurt or having a conversation to
see if you are on the same page, especially if you actually want a serious relationship.
When you just can’t seem to determine what’s going in between you two, here are some signs you’re just a fling:
- She clearly said she just wants things casual
If your date’s honest enough to admit that she only wants a mere fling, then you’re spared of having to
read
between the lines. And don’t even bother trying to change her mind because most likely she is beyond any
negotiation.
If this is what you want among other types of relationships, then you’ve hit
the
jackpot. If not, you can move on to someone else. Making decisions gets easier when she’s upfront about
what
you two are, so you know what to expect.
- Your conversations are superficial
You might have enjoyed spending time with each other on plenty of dates, but
then
you look back and realize that your conversations haven’t gotten past regular small talk. If your
relationship is really going to a deeper level, then you would have had deeper and more meaningful
conversations every now and then.
Not all conversations have to be serious or deep all the time, but you would have been comfortable
sharing
some personal details to your Latina date if she was really interested.
If she doesn’t share any personal details and changes the subject when you do, then you know you two are
just
casual dating. She prefers to just flirt with you than ask questions about you
as
a person, like your profession or interests. This kind of behavior can be really off-putting if you’re
looking for something serious.
- She steers clear in making you a part of her life
If anything, she’ll do whatever it takes so that you wouldn’t meet her family, friends, and even her
pets.
She would even manage to avoid mentioning them at all.
While it’s normal not to meet these people in the early part of the relationship. but if you’ve been
seeing
each other for a while and you still haven’t met the people closest to her (or she constantly refuses
when
you ask to meet them), then you’re just in a sexual relationship with her.
You’re
not deeply involved in each other’s lives.
With casual dating and relationships, the
person
you are seeing might not regard you as someone she can have a future with nor see you as her ideal
partner.
Another reason is she just isn’t ready for a serious commitment.
But when she especially tries to carve you out of her life, then it’s a clear sign. A more disturbing
clue is
she might not want to be connected with you in social media, which could also mean she is hiding
something.
- It’s just the same place and activity
If you keep meeting her in the same place and doing the same activities over and over, it’s clear that
she
wants things only to be casual between you. For instance, your dates consist of meeting at the same bar
on
Wednesday nights and most likely involves alcohol. Or your dates are set almost at the last minute. If
you’re wondering why that is, that’s because she won’t bother making meaningful plans with you.
If she ever thinks of you as a potential partner for a serious relationship, she would be willing to plan
other activities with you. One of the signs a casual relationship is getting serious is when you take
time
to plan memorable dates, like coming over the weekends. The weekend is the best time for most couples to
see
each other. When she refuses to spend time with you on such days, then you know that she has no
intention of
settling down with you.
- She doesn’t pay attention to little things
If she cares about you, then even the littlest things matter because she knows paying attention to them
makes
a big difference. Being heard makes you feel special, so when she doesn’t make any efforts to do that,
then
she’s not going to be around for long.
Consideration is crucial in relationships and when she keeps on missing little details about you, then
she’s
just with you for a fling.
- You’re always the one who reaches out
If both sides want the relationship to work, they would both make equal effort to reach out to each
other.
But if you seem to be the one mostly initiating contact, then most likely she’s just into you for the
time-being. In this case, she may as well not respond to your texts. But when she does, she’ll take her
sweet time even letting her calls go to voicemails.
At this point, it’s clear that she doesn’t prioritize you nor take your feelings into account. Why bother
being with someone who only treats you as a second fiddle?